Sunday, October 27, 2013

Don't Be Ashamed Of Who You Are


“Culture is not something that belongs purely to the past; it is an integral and inalienable part of what we are today and will become tomorrow”.

I can honestly say that this quote by Macdonald (1991) truly summarizes my entire experience with education, culture and identity. Perhaps I should also confess that to this day, I continue to grapple with its meaning and reality. But what is life’s journey without a little struggle and confusion?

Eighteen years ago, my humble little family of four decided to move from Surabaya and create a new home in Sydney. At the time, a growing tension and conflict between the natives and Chinese in Indonesia was advancing over East Java. My family’s Chinese background made us particularly vulnerable to the violence and anger from the natives, and so my parents made the difficult decision to flee our home country and move to Australia. 

On my first day at Wahroonga playgroup, I recollect being introduced to the first Caucasian person I had ever met. She was an elderly lady helping out at the center; I can remember her warmth and friendliness to me, even when I did not understand a single word of English that came out of her mouth. Unfortunately, when I eventually began to learn the English language, I encountered my first personal racial attack. After around six months of settling into the playgroup, I recall coming home crying one day, because a little boy had said to me, “E.T. knew to go home. You, Chinese should learn to go home as well”. I don’t believe that at that age I wholly understood the true meaning behind that racial slur, however it was enough to inform me that to that boy, I was unwanted in this country because of my race. In hindsight, I realize that perhaps it was through this event that I started to develop a deep resentment and embarrassment towards my Asian heritage.

Consequently, throughout my primary and high school years, I admit that I made a considerable effort to ‘mix in’ with my Caucasian classmates, and avoid at all costs to be identified as ‘one of the Asians’. This was not all that challenging as approximately ninety per cent of my grade comprised of kids of European background.

In retrospect, it seemed that my efforts to camouflage myself was in fact a focused desperation to ignore and neglect my Asian culture. In this way, the lack of solid grounding in my identity ultimately left me feeling misplaced and empty. It was not until I learnt to accept and recognize my cultural uniqueness that I attained a sense of self-value and belonging. 

The importance of a accepting one’s identity and thus maintain a consistent self-view is emphasized by Suh (2002). His work is supported by Maslow (1954), who argues that one’s identity is established when an individual’s multiple view of themselves is congruently organized:

“Inner conflicts need to be merged and coalesced to form unities for the person to self-actualize”.

In essence, these findings suggests that a consistent sense of identity was a prerequisite condition of psychological well-being, as persons “had a more clear self-knowledge, were more assertive, and most notably, had self-experiences that were less affected by the perspectives of others”.
In conclusion, it seems that my educational experience has played a considerable role in my search for identity. I have found truth in Macdonald’s (1991) quote – my culture not is one that purely belongs to the past, nor can it be an aspect overlooked within my identity. Accepting it and maintaining a consistent self-view were the most important steps to discovering who I am today and will become tomorrow. 

References:
Macdonald, G. (1991) ‘What is culture?’, Journal of Museum Education, Vol. 16, No.
1, pages 9-12
Maslow, A. (1954) Motivation and personality, New York: Harper & Brothers.
Suh, E. (2002) ‘Culture, identity consistency, and subjective well-being’, Journal of
Personality and Social Psychology, Vol. 83, No. 6, pages 1378-1391

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